Judging by the title of this post, it's probably obvious that a lot has changed since last time. I believe the girlfriend and I were on a break and I was just a tiny bit annoyed at the thought of ever having another relationship again. I had resigned to go back to fucking people without letting bothersome feelings get involved.
Well, that didn't work out so well.
We're back together, engaged, and dating women together. And by dating I mean having threesomes. Ok so that's not entirely accurate since we did have a "real date" with one of the women and she doesn't seem to be in a hurry to get naked with us (much to my disappointment).
But let's talk about this threesome business. Fiance and I would probably disagree on whether or not a threesome is a threesome if two of the participants don't touch each other. Technically there were 3 people present, but we were both doing things to my fiance. I call it a pseudo-threesome.
Finally we had a real threesome just over a week ago. Leading up to this, I had been slightly nervous and unsure of how the dynamic would be between us. How would fiance and I work together? How would it work with the three of us? I dislike uncertainty so this was a little stressful.
Oddly enough, I was fine with it. We tied her up, flogged her, and did other naughty things to her. Then fiance was all done and I stayed in the bedroom playing with our new friend. Not weird at all.
She came back tonight and after some initial shyness, we came into the bedroom and got down to business. I had a good time, but it made me think of things.
Pain. I thought I liked it more than I actually do. I like intense sensations but I don't really like actual pain. Fiance bites me too hard in places that are too sensitive. Threesome friend likes pain more than I do so it's good to let fiance do that stuff to her. I might be super sensitive right now due to hormonal fluctuations, but damn, it was just too much! I don't know how to explain exactly what kind of pain or sensations I like, but I think I don't like being bitten so much anymore. At least not on places like my thighs or shoulders, but honestly, I'm running out of spots without bruises!
Also, with three people it can get sort of confusing. I feel like all parties need to be on the same page, otherwise it's just a disorganized pile of bodies on the bed. Fun or mayhem? I don't know.
I'm also realizing that I like more bodily contact with my partner and don't necessarily get off on only using implements on each other. I want touching. This has nothing to do with threesomes, but everything to do with kink. I don't think that in order to be kinky you absolutely must use a bunch of equipment on someone.
So, lessons? I don't want to be hurt. I like to feel good.
