Life is good.

That's the prevailing thought today, hell, all week!  It's been really really great lately.  I am finally, FINALLY figuring out what I want in a guy and what I don't want.  Now the hard part is saying "no" to some of the guys who are contacting me again after a couple of months.  Maybe that was ok back then, but it's not ok now.  I want more. 

I have two, yes TWO awesome friends with benefits (I don't know what else to call them!) who both very much enjoy kissing and cuddling.....a LOT.  They both happen to be very cute, but I'm also realizing that while attraction is important, looks aren't everything.  Neither is size.  What's important is the chemistry between us because that's the difference between just fucking and a total experience.  Why should I settle for anything less?  I mean, there are times when a good pounding is needed, but I have guys who do that and I'm always left wanting more.  I want more than the guy just jumping up, getting dressed, and leaving right away.  That was acceptable a few months ago but it's getting old, especially now that I know there are guys out there who are so much more awesome than that.

Does this have you wondering if I want a relationship?  I'm sure it could sound like that to the average person.  I'm not average.  All this means is that I'm narrowing in on the kind of guy I prefer. 

What is that exactly?  I don't like the usual type of straight guy:  the caveman, the bully, the brute...I no longer find it attractive when guys get all possessive and territorial.  It's offensive.   I love non-traditional guys who shirk all of that usual bullshit and do their own thing.  THAT is hot.  It's another reason I like bisexual guys and want to find more of them. 

Next step, start weeding out the guys who keep resurfacing from the past few months and saying NO.

So I'm just in a really good place right now and am very much enjoying life.